When I was kid, mama taught me not to tell anyone about our giving because our Father will reward us for what is done in secret. Mama mentioned that giving isn't merely talking about money but also the hard-work and time.
One random midnight, I was awakened from my sleep.
I heard a cry and caught my Mama was praying.
I have no idea why she don't do it when everybody's up.
Then, I remember the time she told me about giving.
It is not all about money but also the time we give to God.
When you pray, it's only between you and God.
Do it confidentially.
The Hidden Figure
One random midnight, I was awakened from my sleep.
I heard a cry and caught my Mama was praying.
I have no idea why she don't do it when everybody's up.
Then, I remember the time she told me about giving.
It is not all about money but also the time we give to God.
When you pray, it's only between you and God.
Do it confidentially.
The Hidden Figure
Someone who holds the important role even though no one acknowledge their contribution. (my opinion)
Mama is the first hidden figure of my life. She is both the best wife and best mother. Ever. She keeps her contribution to herself. Everything she does remain silent.
I cannot imagine how my family could be without her prayer, love and support.
Ironically, all of her love and kindness are taken for granted.
Instead of being appreciated, she get thing she doesn't deserve; — disrespected, betrayed, and neglected.
If only she counts the things she has done for us, she might never stay with us.
How not? She deserves a better life out there.
Nevertheless, her love is greater than the pain.
Although it's unfair, she never stop loving and caring.
She is the toughest Mama I ever have in my life.
Take a look at the past years (when I don't understand about this)
During the last of my teenage years, I was under influenced by radical teaching which led me being such a religious show off person. (Totally opposite from a hidden figure.)
I posted all about God everyday in social media. (Don't get me wrong, it's great to share the good news but sometimes you have to be wise.)
I shared everything excessively, like a burning fire demanding on others to repentance.
The worse thing happened when I've been promoted to a leader role. The more role I bear, the more authoritarian I have become. (And you know, being authoritarian never good. It makes me isolated from everyone whom I couldn't tolerate.)
That's the first time a leader role become a burden for me.
I feel like I can't be that person anymore that I stepped down.
Honestly I still want to be a leader, but not like that.
I should have learned something new to be a good one.
I used to think that leadership talks about authority and attention.
I was wrong.
Leader is actually someone who brought out the best in team, not the center of attention who always point out what's wrong. That's the real essence of leadership skills.
“Beautiful things don't ask for attention” - The Secret Life of Walter Mitty
Unfortunately, I'm not the kind of person who keep all things private.
I love to share several things.
In my opinion, it doesn't matter to have other knows what you do.
Showing off, sometimes is okay.
You would say that I ask for attention.
(Well, okay. I do ask for attention. But, doesn't mean that I'm not beautiful, does it? Ha ha ha)
Actually my deep desire is to see people get what they deserve. Only that.
The Low-Key
There's another one that I observed to share about this.
Someone who said to me that he loves doing something behind the scene,
I still cannot understand how people like them handle this situation,
Until it hits me
Later, I realized that sometimes I don't need to be seen among others.
I don't have to always get credit in every single thing I do.
Well, depends on the situation. Both are good.
You will understand once it happens to you.
Make sure that the visible and the invisible contribution are well-balanced.
HOW?
When you tired of someone else who took all the credit for your work,
Make it visible. I think it's a natural tendency to protect our contribution
But, when praise makes you uncomfortable because you sincerely do that thing,
you can choose to do the invisible one.
It's all up to you. Enjoy your contribution.
Mama is the first hidden figure of my life. She is both the best wife and best mother. Ever. She keeps her contribution to herself. Everything she does remain silent.
I cannot imagine how my family could be without her prayer, love and support.
Ironically, all of her love and kindness are taken for granted.
Instead of being appreciated, she get thing she doesn't deserve; — disrespected, betrayed, and neglected.
If only she counts the things she has done for us, she might never stay with us.
How not? She deserves a better life out there.
Nevertheless, her love is greater than the pain.
Although it's unfair, she never stop loving and caring.
She is the toughest Mama I ever have in my life.
Take a look at the past years (when I don't understand about this)
During the last of my teenage years, I was under influenced by radical teaching which led me being such a religious show off person. (Totally opposite from a hidden figure.)
I posted all about God everyday in social media. (Don't get me wrong, it's great to share the good news but sometimes you have to be wise.)
I shared everything excessively, like a burning fire demanding on others to repentance.
The worse thing happened when I've been promoted to a leader role. The more role I bear, the more authoritarian I have become. (And you know, being authoritarian never good. It makes me isolated from everyone whom I couldn't tolerate.)
That's the first time a leader role become a burden for me.
I feel like I can't be that person anymore that I stepped down.
Honestly I still want to be a leader, but not like that.
I should have learned something new to be a good one.
I used to think that leadership talks about authority and attention.
I was wrong.
Leader is actually someone who brought out the best in team, not the center of attention who always point out what's wrong. That's the real essence of leadership skills.
“Beautiful things don't ask for attention” - The Secret Life of Walter Mitty
Yes, I couldn't agree more.
Unfortunately, I'm not the kind of person who keep all things private.
I love to share several things.
In my opinion, it doesn't matter to have other knows what you do.
Showing off, sometimes is okay.
You would say that I ask for attention.
(Well, okay. I do ask for attention. But, doesn't mean that I'm not beautiful, does it? Ha ha ha)
Actually my deep desire is to see people get what they deserve. Only that.
The Low-Key
There's another one that I observed to share about this.
Someone who said to me that he loves doing something behind the scene,
that he worked on project all by himself. Someone who's low-key. Just like Mama.
Though, the other takes credit for his work, (Like what happened to me lately)
It did not stop him to get things done. He's still putting all efforts and do very best into that. (Same case but different way of respond: I won't do my best for someone who steals credit for my work)
Though, the other takes credit for his work, (Like what happened to me lately)
It did not stop him to get things done. He's still putting all efforts and do very best into that. (Same case but different way of respond: I won't do my best for someone who steals credit for my work)
I still cannot understand how people like them handle this situation,
Until it hits me
Later, I realized that sometimes I don't need to be seen among others.
I don't have to always get credit in every single thing I do.
Well, depends on the situation. Both are good.
You will understand once it happens to you.
Make sure that the visible and the invisible contribution are well-balanced.
HOW?
When you tired of someone else who took all the credit for your work,
Make it visible. I think it's a natural tendency to protect our contribution
But, when praise makes you uncomfortable because you sincerely do that thing,
you can choose to do the invisible one.
It's all up to you. Enjoy your contribution.
Melissa Polii
August 6th, 2017
12:38 PM
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